Hey, thanks for your reply! It’s good to commiserate with fellow Fruvous fans about this. It’s funny that you mention this — I didn’t talk about it in my post because I’m still grappling with whether it is hindsight or not, but I got this sense after the news came out that was like a piece of a jigsaw puzzle being put together in my head, the sense being that Jian was kind of Weird with Women. Now this is coming from a guy who lived in Idaho and, as I appended in my last post, was probably the only person in Idaho in the mid to late 90s who even knew who Moxy Fruvous was. So I didn’t have access to him like the east coast of Canada and New England did and couldn’t judge this up front. But even secluded on the western side of the continent, I felt that maybe Jian had some lady issues, and so I guess when he posted on Facebook about being into BDSM, I was like, “For some reason that does not surprise me.”
After the assault cases started popping up, I was significantly more surprised, but every time I think about it it makes me think of “Sad Girl” for some reason. I dunno. It’s hard to describe. Which is why I worry that it might just be hindsight.
Anyway, it sucks. Dave is still my favorite. I was never a huge Murray fan, but I always appreciated the particular quirkiness of his songs. I’m actually really glad that each one of them is a talented musician and that their band was a collaborative process, because I don’t feel bad listening to them now, as for every Jian song there are multiple Dave, Mike, or Murray songs. But I don’t know if I can ever listen to “Fly” the same way again.